This article argues that mandatory mediation provides neither a more just nor a more humane alternative to the adversarial system of adjudication of custody and, therefore, does not fulfill its promises. It looks at California’s mandatory mediation law, which requires that all custody and visitation disputes be mediated prior to being considered by the county Superior Court. While mediation is a place where emotions can be expressed, expressions of anger are often overtly discouraged, thereby silencing a woman who may have, for the first time in her life, found a voice for her anger. For a victim of physical abuse, the direct confrontation with her husband, with the safety of her children and herself at stake, would surely be psychologically traumatizing and might also put her in physical danger. The article then explains judicial violence and considers alternatives to mandatory mediation.