Perfection: Committed Relationships and John Wesley
Committed unmarried relationships include being engaged and some forms of cohabitation and dating. Committed unmarried relationships place a premium on avoiding divorce. Christians emphasize their ideals about marriage in their discussions of premarital relationships. Those ideals foster anxiety that is unhelpful for Christian life and may, in fact, support exactly a climate ripe for divorce. John Wesley, the 18th-century founder of the Methodist movement, offers a view of Christian perfection that is an antidote to contemporary anxiety about marriage. He also brings wisdom from his own near-engagements and engagements, to show us that premarital committed relationships can be imperfect—or rather, help us understand perfection in more godly ways.