Awareness, Groundedness, Embodiment: Intrapersonal Elements in Interpersonal Relationships

Human beings are inherently relational. To relate may mean to communicate, interact, transact, engage, involve and even just be with another person. It may imply fulfilling and satisfying the needs of one another. In a more altruistic tone, the relationship is giving and receiving. Others see a relationship as a social exchange. In contrast, others may see it as a social and ethical contract that ought to adhere. Others see a relationship as an instrument as a means to self-actualize or as a process of reaching the self-potential. There are many types of relationships. While others have a formal set of rules, there are interpersonal relationships that have loose code of affair. Among the dimensions of relationship, intimate interpersonal relationships are complicated. In contrast to business affair, marriage and in other intimate partnership, sanctions, roles and rules are not clearly defined. The ambiguity of interpersonal relationships reflects the dynamisms of its elements. Since its fluid, contextual and multi-faceted, there is no exact point of analysis. In this article, awareness, dialog, groundedness, embodiment are discussed in the light of intimate partner conflicts that are amplified using fictional case vignettes that are adopted from real cases of intimate conflict. This article concludes with the assertion that cultivation of relationships starts with the person.

EFEKTI BRAČNOG LOKUSA KONTROLE NA PERCEPCIJU KVALITETA BRAČNOG ODNOSA KOD ŽENA

U cilju utvđivanja efekata koje na percepciju bračnog kvaliteta, kod žena, ima bračni lokus kontrole, uz praćenje efekata bračne nestabilnosti i dužine braka, ispitana je 1821 žena, starosti od 19 do 75 godina. Bračni lokus kontrole je meren Skalom doživljaja lične efikasnosti u rešavanju bračnih konflikata (Perceived efficacy in solving intimate conflict scale: Fincham & Bradbury, 1987), bračna nestabilnost je izražena Indeksom bračne nestabilnosti (Martial Instability Index: Booth, Johnson, & Edwards, 1983), a percipirani kvalitet braka je meren Skalom prilagođenosti u bračnom odnosu (Dyadic Adjustment Scale – DAS: Spanier, 1976). U obradi prikupljenih podataka, primenjene su četiri hijerarhijske regresione analize, u kojima su kriterijske varijable bile subdimenzije kvaliteta bračnog odnosa: konsenzus, dijadno zadovoljstvo, afektivno-seksualna usaglašenost i kohezivnost. U cilju kontrole uticaja prediktorskih varijabli, u analizu je u prvom koraku uključena dužina braka, u drugom bračana nestabilnost, a u trećem koraku je ispitan odnos bračnog lokusa kontrole i pojedinačnih dimenzija kvaliteta braka. Na osnovu dobijenih rezultata možemo zaključiti da je doživljaj lične efikasnosti u rešavanju bračnih konflikata, kod žena, dobar pokazatelj prvenstveno stepena njihovog zadovoljstva brakom, ali i njihove procene stepena slaganja sa bračnim partnerom po pitanjima koja su od značaja za svakodnevno funkcionisanje. S druge strane, na osnovu procene bračnog lokusa kontrole u manjoj meri možemo zaključivati o bračnoj kohezivnosti i stepenu afektivno-seksualne usaglašenosti supružnika. Procena bračne nestabilnosti povećava stepen razumevanja različitih aspekata kvaliteta braka, dok je doprinos samog vremena koje su supružnici proveli u braku, iako statistički značajan, praktično zanemariv.