Do As I Say, Not As I Do: Benevolent Deception in Romantic Relationships

2014 ◽  
Vol 5 ◽  
Author(s):  
Christian L. Hart ◽  
Drew A. Curtis ◽  
Nicole M. Williams ◽  
Marissa D. Hathaway ◽  
James D. Griffith
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Men And Women

In this study, men and women were surveyed about their attitudes toward the use of white lies and other forms of benevolent deception in their romantic relationships. We predicted that people would be more accepting of telling lies than of having lies told to them. Furthermore, we predicted that women would be more accepting than men of benevolent deception in their romantic relationships. We found that people were more tolerant of telling benevolent lies than they were of being told such lies. However, we found that men, not women, were more accepting of benevolent deception in their relationships.

What Men and Women Want in Romantic Relationships: Empirical Evidence

2006 ◽  
Author(s):  
Martin Heesacker ◽  
Thomas J. Tiegs ◽  
Donna C. Labarge ◽  
Christina M. Millan ◽  
Alvin W. Lawrence ◽  
...  
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Empirical Evidence ◽  
Men And Women

Intimacy Through Casual Sex: Relational Context of Sexual Activity and Affectionate Behaviours

2018 ◽  
Vol 9 ◽  
Author(s):  
Justin R. Garcia ◽  
Amanda N. Gesselman ◽  
Sean G. Massey ◽  
Susan M. Seibold-Simpson ◽  
Ann M. Merriwether
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Sexual Activity ◽  
Emerging Adults ◽  
Casual Sex ◽  
Sexual Relationship ◽  
Relational Context ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Relationship Context ◽  
Sexual Encounters

AbstractLittle is known about the role of affectionate behaviours — factors traditionally understood within the context of romantic relationships — in uncommitted ‘casual sex’ encounters. In a sample of U.S. undergraduate emerging adults aged 18–25 years (N= 639) we conducted a preliminary internet-based questionnaire investigation into the role of affectionate behaviours — operationalised here as cuddling, spending the night and cuddling, foreplay, and eye gazing — across two sexual relationship contexts: (committed) traditional romantic relationships and (uncommitted) casual sex encounters. While affectionate behaviours were desired more often in romantic relationships than in casual sexual encounters, many respondents (both men and women) engaged in these affectionate behaviours during casual sexual encounters as well. This was especially pronounced in those who expressed a preference for casual sex encounters over romantic relationships: in a casual sex context these participants were about 1.5 times as likely to cuddle, 1.5 times as likely to spend the night and cuddle, and nearly 5 times as likely to engage in foreplay with a partner. The current study emphasises the importance of considering relationship context in sexuality and relationship research, and the need for further theoretical and empirical research on dimensions of intimacy, including affection, in people's diverse romantic and sexual lives.

scholarly journals Meta-Analyses of Sex Differences in Responses to Sexual Versus Emotional Infidelity: Men and Women are More Similar than Different

2019 ◽  
Author(s):  
Christopher Carpenter
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Social Cognitive ◽  
Cognitive Theory ◽  
Sexual Infidelity ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Emotional Infidelity ◽  
Lesbian And Gay ◽  
The Social ◽  
Meta Analyses ◽  
Continuous Measures

From 54 articles, 172 effect sizes were meta-analyzed to determine whether men and women are differentially distressed by emotional versus sexual infidelity. Predictions were derived and tested from an evolutionary psychology (EP) perspective, a social–cognitive perspective, and the double-shot perspective. The data were not consistent with the EP predictions because men tended to respond in the predicted manner in only the U.S. student samples, whereas the rest of the data were largely consistent with the social–cognitive theory. Specifically, both sexes tended to be more upset by emotional than sexual infidelity when forced to choose which type of infidelity was more distressing. Both sexes indicated that sexual infidelity was more distressing than emotional when asked to rate their level of distress separately for each using continuous measures. The lesbian and gay samples were mostly consistent with the double-shot hypothesis because they tended to respond based on stereotyping grounded in the sex of their partner, paralleling heterosexuals in this regard. Analysis of the scenarios designed to test the double-shot hypothesis found somewhat smaller effects when the possibility of both types of infidelity was ruled out. These findings suggest that professionals seeking to address problems associated with jealousy in romantic relationships would profit from avoiding sex-linked assumptions about which aspect of infidelity is likely to be more upsetting.

scholarly journals OFFERING SHIFTS TO CASUAL LANGUAGE (‘BAN-MAL’) IN THE KOREAN TV SHOW WE GOT MARRIED

2020 ◽  
Vol 6 ◽  
pp. 37-55
Author(s):  
Youngran BAŠTANOVÁ KWAK
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Older People ◽  
Older Women ◽  
Older Men ◽  
Reality Tv ◽  
The Other ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Speech Styles ◽  
Tv Show

: This research focuses on the topic of Korean speech style shifts from polite to casual between men and women in romantic relationships. This study used data from the Korean reality TV show We Got Married, which was broadcast in Korea for 9 years. After reviewing the system of Korean speech styles and manners of shifts, the study explores who is the first one to offer a shift, what they say, and how an offer is given. According to the analysis, older people were more likely to offer shifts first in the case of romantic relationships. In the TV show, older women tended to offer first a little more through indirect means, while older men offered rather directly. As for expressions used in the offers, the phrase ‘drop the honorifics’ and ‘talk comfortably’ were the most frequently used. They might offer in either polite or casual language, with sudden shifts. However, it was more common for speakers to offer shifts while talking in polite language. During conversations, two types of offers were observed: symmetrical shifts and asymmetrical shifts. In the first type, one speaker suggests shifts from both sides. The second type has more variations: one speaker requests the other’s permission to use casual language, allows the other to use casual language, or shows the speaker’s decision to use casual language. In the samples, symmetrical shifts occurred more often.

Young Men’s Pursuit of Marriage

2020 ◽  
pp. 47-66
Author(s):  
Magdalena Wong
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Migrant Workers ◽  
Marriage Market ◽  
Social Pressure ◽  
Traditional Values ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Class Differences ◽  
Women's Equality ◽  
Father And Son

The chapter looks at romance and marriage in China, from the popular portrayal in the reality dating show Feicheng Wurao, to the crucial social pressure for men and women to marry. The subjects of the two ethnographic cases are migrant workers who, although they have broken away from the humble rural backgrounds that would disadvantage them in the marriage market, nevertheless still face challenges finding wives. The chapter explicates an intrinsic tension in the hegemonic ideology of able-responsible man between the traditional values of patriarchy and the requirement that modern men are caring, romantic, and egalitarian. Tensions between money and love, male chauvinism and women’s equality, class differences, and the need for a man to be a good husband, father, and son-in-law, are all shown to affect men’s performance in romantic relationships and marriage.

The association between abuse and the perpetration of subtle sexual coercion: The role of approach and avoidance motivations

2019 ◽  
Vol 36 (5) ◽  
pp. 1509-1526
Author(s):  
Ellie R. Mullins ◽  
Gery C. Karantzas
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Physical Abuse ◽  
Sexual Coercion ◽  
Psychological Abuse ◽  
Romantic Partner ◽  
Heterosexual Couples ◽  
Potential Mechanism ◽  
Approach And Avoidance ◽  
Men And Women

Little research has investigated the associations between abuse and subtle sexual coercion within romantic relationships and the mechanisms that may underpin this association. Specifically, no previous research has investigated whether approach and avoidance motivations for engaging in sexual coercion explain this association. The aim of this research was to investigate whether approach and avoidance motivations pertaining to the perpetration of subtle sexual coercion may mediate the perpetration of psychological and physical abuse and the perpetration of sexual coercion. A total of 117 heterosexual couples (mean age = 30.42 years) completed measures assessing their approach and avoidance motivations for sexual coercion, as well as reports of abuse perpetration (physical and psychological) and sexual coercion against their romantic partner. Findings revealed that men and women’s perpetration of psychological abuse (but not physical abuse) was positively associated with their own avoidance motivations for sexual coercion perpetration and that women’s perpetration of psychological abuse was positively associated with their partner’s approach and avoidance motivations for sexual coercion perpetration. Avoidance motives were also found to mediate the association between psychological abuse and sexual coercion perpetration for both men and women. The results of this study highlight the importance of exploring motives as a potential mechanism to help explain the associations between abuse and sexual coercion within romantic relationships.

scholarly journals Exploring the links between dispositions, romantic relationships, support networks and community inclusion in men and women

PLoS ONE ◽  
2019 ◽  
Vol 14 (5) ◽  
pp. e0216210 ◽  
Author(s):  
Eiluned Pearce ◽  
Rafael Wlodarski ◽  
Anna Machin ◽  
Robin I. M. Dunbar
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Support Networks ◽  
Community Inclusion ◽  
Men And Women

scholarly journals Playing Hard–To–Get: Manipulating One'S Perceived Availability as A Mate

2013 ◽  
Vol 27 (5) ◽  
pp. 458-469 ◽  
Author(s):  
Peter K. Jonason ◽  
Norman P. Li
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Casual Sex ◽  
Supply Side ◽  
Personality Psychology ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
American Universities ◽  
Perceived Availability ◽  
Sexual Economics ◽  
Economics Model

‘Playing hard–to–get’ is a mating tactic in which people give the impression that they are ostensibly uninterested to get others to desire them more. This topic has received little attention because of theoretical and methodological limitations of prior work. We present four studies drawn from four different American universities that examined playing hard–to–get as part of a supply–side economics model of dating. In Studies 1a (N = 100) and 1b (N = 491), we identified the tactics that characterize playing hard–to–get and how often men and women enact them. In Study 2 (N = 290), we assessed reasons why men and women play hard–to–get along with the personality traits associated with these reasons. In Studies 3 (N = 270) and 4 (N = 425), we manipulated the rate per week prospective mates went out with people they had just met and assessed participants’ willingness to engage in casual sex and serious romantic relationships with prospective mates (Study 3) and the money and time they were willing to invest in prospective mates (Study 4). We frame our results using a sexual economics model to understand the role of perceived availability in mating dynamics. Copyright © 2012 European Association of Personality Psychology

Associations of Sex and Type of Relationship on Intimacy

2004 ◽  
Vol 94 (3_suppl) ◽  
pp. 1322-1324 ◽  
Author(s):  
Donna Salas ◽  
Kay E. Ketzenberger
Keyword(s):  
Sex Differences ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Romantic Partners ◽  
Same Sex ◽  
Men And Women

Sex differences in self-perceived intimacy were investigated in both same-sex friendships and romantic relationships. Men and women had significantly different means on intimacy with their same-sex friends but reported similar means with romantic partners. Both men and women reported significantly higher mean scores on intimacy with romantic partners than with friends.

scholarly journals Are online behaviors damaging our in-person connections? Passive versus active social media use on romantic relationships

2021 ◽  
Vol 15 (1) ◽  
Author(s):  
Selena I. Quiroz ◽  
Kristin D. Mickelson
Keyword(s):  
Social Media ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Relationship Satisfaction ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Media Use ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Negative Association ◽  
Social Media Use ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Relationship Health

Social media has been extensively researched, and its impact on well-being is becoming more clear. What is less clear, however, is the role of social media on romantic relationships, with the few existing studies finding mixed results. In an attempt to reconcile these discrepancies, the current study explored types of social media use (i.e., active use and passive use) as moderators between frequency of social media use and relationship health (i.e., relationship satisfaction and commitment). Participants were 432 adults in a romantic relationship for at least three months. Results showed that women who passively use social media at moderate to high levels exhibited negative associations between hours per day of social media use and relationship satisfaction, and hours per day of social media use and commitment. On the other hand, active use may ameliorate the negative association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health for both women and men. Specifically, men and women reporting low levels of active use exhibited a stronger negative association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health than those who reported moderate levels of active use. Additionally, there was no association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health for men and women reporting high levels of active use. Implications of these findings are discussed, as well as future directions based on these findings.

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