Why They Did Not Identify as Gay or Bisexual
The men interviewed identified as straight largely because of their embeddedness in straight culture and desire to remain a part of a socially dominant group. Most felt that gay men were too feminine, urban, or incompatible with conventional marriage or family formation. Nonetheless, a majority supported equal legal rights, including same-sex marriage. Yet many also expressed various types and degrees of homophobia, some subtle and some more obvious. In this sense the men interviewed were like the majority of straight people, who support many forms of legal equality but not always informal rights. The men interviewed identified as straight not only because of homophobia, any more than most straight men identify as straight only because of homophobia. Homophobia was only one of many reasons for their straight identification. Relatedly, most of the men interviewed knew that bisexuality was a possible identity but did not adopt that identity for themselves in large part for three reasons. First, they considered it incompatible with having a woman partner. Second, they had no interest in romantically partnering with a man. And third, they thought identifying as bisexual would threaten their other relationships.