In 2012, a 14-year-old Pakistani girl received one of the most
frightening messages imaginable: a terrorist group was plotting to kill
her.
Her name was Malala Yousafzai, and two years later, after recovering
from a gunshot wound to the face, she would become the youngest Nobel
Peace Prize Laureate. But in that initial moment, when she had just
heard about the threat against her life, she found herself focusing
inward trying to make sense of her situation.
When we're stressed, turning inward is a common response—but it often backfires. Instead of making us feel better, it leads us to experience chatter.
Chatter is the cycle of negative thoughts and feelings that turn our
capacity for introspection into a vulnerability rather than a
strength—we worry, ruminate, and catastrophize rather than come up with
clear solutions for how to improve our circumstances. And chatter is
even more common now, given the turbulence of a once-in-a-century
pandemic, a racial reckoning, and extreme political polarization.