Men’s Free Will

“Men’s Free Will” examines how differently sex therapy unfolds when a heterosexual male presents with the problem of low sexual desire—how heterosexual men are often treated more respectfully, more attentively, and more generously than heterosexual women. This chapter shows that for sex therapists, a man’s position in his marital orbit need not adapt to his wife’s needs. She must adapt to his. Through examination of contemporary case studies, the chapter examines how heterosexual men with low sexual desire not only present as more sexually intransigent than heterosexual women, but that their intransigence is more likely to be accepted by their spouse and therapist.