Each of us likely has mild to strong preferences for certain personalities. And those personalities may or may not be similar to our own. Given the sometimes powerful reactions to personalities in schools, it may be worth thinking about them and considering their influence on us. • A teacher relies on sarcastic humor for interacting with teachers and students. Some like the teasing. Others find it offensive. • A teacher is demure and quiet. Some appreciate the calm. Others distrust the lack of responsiveness to co- workers. • A principal is very efficient and responsible in managing school issues, yet teachers and parents feel slighted by an assumed lack of interest in them. • A principal is so generous, affectionate, and outgoing that teachers begin to wish for a strong disciplinarian, rather than a grandparent figure. Whether we are drawn to or repelled by certain personalities, we are likely to face them in schools. And it is to our advantage to both notice our personality preferences and actively coach ourselves to look and behave beyond them, instead of letting them interfere with our teaching or our collegiality. Exuberant personalities. Quiet personalities. Which do you prefer as friends? Which do you prefer as students? All ages of people, from preschool on, could have personalities that repel or ignite our sense of comfort and affinity. This is common, and it is normal. How we act on those feelings, however, can affect the health of our relationships and the effectiveness of our teaching. No matter the level of exuberance or quietness, we would be remiss to gauge expertise, leadership, or friendliness by the magnitude of others’ social behaviors. Plus it can be important for us to notice when our own quietness or liveliness has a dampening effect on our teaching, conversations, and group discussions. Personalities can push us away or draw us near. We benefit when we treat a person (including a student or teacher) openly and kindly regardless of our initial, instinctive, emotional response to that individual’s personality.