Gender Troubles
This chapter introduces the families in the study and the diverse ways they came to understand that their child had a gender issue that penetrated to the level of core identity. While many children engage in atypical forms of play, certain types of gendered statements and behaviors led these parents to decide that their child had a problem significant enough to seek support from an outside expert or advocate. Some also came, in time, to understand that their child had a gender identity that conflicted with their social assignment. The processes through which parents generated these understandings differed significantly for male and female children, reflecting how we valorize normative masculinity while simultaneously treating the category “male” as exquisitely fragile. Parents then shift their behavior, “giving gender” differently to their children, revealing the ways our identities come into being in interaction with significant others.