Of Fathers and Mothers
This chapter unravels both the identification and alienation between Intralatino/a children and their parents given the performance of gender and sexuality. I examine the case of Daniel, who is Dominican, Puerto Rican, and Mexican-American, but who identifies strongly with his mother and with her Dominican national identity, thus illustrating the traditional theories regarding the mother’s central role in transmitting culture, especially in mixed families. I also discuss the profound pain of two other Intralatino/as, Mario and Maria Isabel, who counteract Daniel’s narrative by distancing themselves from the problematic gendered and sexual behavior of their respective father and mother. By reading them together, the three narratives critically reflect on gender identities—both their own and those of their parents, revealing how gender and sexuality inform the disavowal of national identities among Intralatino/as.