Sexual Intimacy and Replacement Children after the Death of a Child

1985 ◽  
Vol 15 (2) ◽  
pp. 109-118 ◽  
Author(s):  
Sherry Johnson

The stress on couples who have a child die is tremendous. Fourteen couples who had a short or long preparation time for their child's death were interviewed. All parents expressed guilt. It was also discovered that because of this grief and the accompanying guilt, sexual intercourse was performed only by three couples within the first three days after the death, with sexual guilt occurring with one couple. Hugging and being held, however, became a comforting behavior found in all but one couple. This behavior was a new experience for the men. Although sex was perceived as undesirable, it was again initiated for a specific reason: to produce a replacement child. Although the literature indicates that replacement children could be potentially pathological, the question arises whether a replacement child could be a “normal” need for parents of childbearing years.

Author(s):  
Elizabeth Wall-Wieler ◽  
Leslie Roos ◽  
James Bolton

IntroductionMothers have increased mental illness such as anxiety and depression after the death of a child. Objectives and ApproachThe mental health of all mothers who experience the death of an infant (< 1 years old) in Manitoba, Canada between April 1, 1999, and March 31, 2011 (n = 534) is examined in the four years leading up to, and the four years following, the death of their child to determine how long increased levels of mental-health realted outcomes remain elevated after the death of an infant. Mental health-related outcomes of these mothers are compared with a matched (3:1) cohort of mothers who did not experience the death of a child (n = 1,602). ResultsCompared with mothers who did not experience the death of a child, mothers experiencing this event had higher rates of anxiety diagnoses and psychotropic prescriptions starting 6 months before the death. Elevated rates of anxiety continued for the first year and elevated rates of psychotropic prescriptions continued for six months after the death of the child. Mothers who experienced the death of a child had higher rates of depression diagnoses in the year after the death. Relative rates (RR) of depression (RR = 4.94), anxiety (RR = 2.21), and psychotropic medication use (RR = 3.18) were highest in the six months after the child’s death. Conclusion/ImplicationsElevated rates of depression, anxiety, and psychotropic medication use after the death of a child end within one year of the child’s death.


2019 ◽  
pp. 003022281982591
Author(s):  
Anne-Marie Martinez ◽  
Sonia Castiglione ◽  
France Dupuis ◽  
Alain Legault ◽  
Marie-Claude Proulx ◽  
...  

A child’s death is a traumatic life experience for parents. Health-care professionals (HCPs) have sought guidance on how to intervene with grieving parents, particularly with fathers. Having therapeutic conversations is an effective way for HCPs to support grieving fathers. In our previous study, fathers identified core beliefs that influenced their experience of grief and coping. In this article, the Illness Beliefs Model was integrated with the findings to provide a framework for interventions to create open conversations, ease fathers’ suffering, and thereby help their spouse and family suffering as well. This article will guide HCPs to engage in therapeutic conversations to support bereaved fathers.


2016 ◽  
Vol 49 (5) ◽  
pp. 675-684 ◽  
Author(s):  
Abiodun Idowu Adanikin ◽  
Pipeloluwa Oluwayemisi Adanikin ◽  
Ernest Okechukwu Orji ◽  
Benedict Tolulope Adeyanju

SummaryThis study sought to characterize sexual behaviour, contraceptive use and contributory upbringing factors among young people who had dropped out of school or college in a Nigerian setting. A community-based, cross-sectional sexual survey of 161 young people aged between 15 and 35 who had dropped out of school or college was performed in Ado-Ekiti, south-west Nigeria, in April 2015. One hundred and nineteen of the respondents (73.9%) had had sexual intercourse. Mean age at sexual debut was 19.08±3.5 years. Of those with sexual experience, 79 (66.4%) had their sexual debut with a previous boy/girlfriend and 33 (27.7%) had it in their current relationship. Three (2.5%) respondents had first sex with a stranger. About 90% were still having sexual intercourse within 12 months of the survey; more males had had sex than females (81.1% versus 67.8%). Around 80% of those with sexual exposure practised a form of contraception, mainly use of the male condom, but fewer than 25% were all-time contraceptive users. Coming from a single-parent family (p=0.04) or from a family of poor economic status (AOR: 7.41; 95% CI: 0.69–0.83) were found to be associated with sexual debut by the age of 19 and premarital sex, respectively, in these young people. Unprotected sexual intimacy was found to be high among young school/college drop-outs in this region of Nigeria. This group of young people need targeted reproductive health intervention as they represent a potent route for HIV transmission in the region.


Author(s):  
Joanna Breyer ◽  
Aurora Sanfeliz

There are many types of loss, but in most Western cultures, the death of a child is considered the most difficult loss because of the symbolic meaning and value associated with having children (Rubin & Malkinson, 2001). In such cultures, the death of a child is considered “out of order” and shatters basic expectations regarding the sequence and predictability of events (Rando, 1983; Schmidt, 1987). The loss of a child challenges the evolutionary role of the parent as “protector” and may result in feelings of despair, isolation, and guilt (Finkbeiner, 1996). This reaction to losing a child is perhaps related to the lower mortality rate experienced in many Western cultures. Cultures with higher infant mortality rates may view the significance of a child’s death differently (Eisenbruch, 1984a). There are also differences in how people of various ethnic backgrounds experience the loss of a child within the United States (Kalish & Reynolds, 1976). Despite the extensive history of research and writings on loss and bereavement, there is a dearth of controlled studies specific to bereavement in the pediatric oncology population. Ethical and methodological challenges may account for the limited research in this area. In addition, the increase in the survival rate for pediatric oncology patients over the past several decades has resulted in an emphasis on the study of coping and adjustment of survivors. In the United States, mortality rates associated with pediatric cancers have been declining for over a quarter century. Between 1975 and 1995, the overall decline in mortality was nearly 40% (Ries, 1999). Still, an estimated 1,500 deaths were expected in 2003 among children diagnosed with cancer between the ages of birth and 14 years, indicating that clinicians in this field are still frequently confronted with anticipatory grief and subsequent bereavement issues for patients and families (American Cancer Society, 2003). The current chapter provides a brief overview of relevant bereavement literature in the context of describing bereavement in pediatric oncology and introduces a model of coping with bereavement suited to describing the range of reactions to the loss of a child.


1992 ◽  
Vol 25 (1) ◽  
pp. 63-71 ◽  
Author(s):  
James J. Ponzetti

Most research has dealt with the bereaved person as an individual and ignored the context in which the person grieves. The occurrence of a death in the family is experienced in various ways, depending on the nature of the relationships within the family. The purpose of this study was to investigate how different family members experience a child's death by comparing the grief reactions of parents and grandparents within the same family. Most parents and grandparents reported subjectively experiencing affective changes in reflecting on the death that did not appear to alter behavior patterns. The majority of parents mentioned that they felt or acted differently toward their surviving children as a result of the death, whereas only one third of the grandparents noted any differences toward their grandchildren. Overall, parents' reactions centered on their deceased child whereas grandparents' concerns focused on their children (i.e., the parents of the deceased child).


Neurology ◽  
2022 ◽  
pp. 10.1212/WNL.0000000000013263
Author(s):  
Dang Wei ◽  
Jiong Li ◽  
Hua Chen ◽  
Fang Fang ◽  
Imre Janszky ◽  
...  

Background and Objectives:The death of a child is an extreme life event with potentially long-term health consequences. Accumulating evidence suggests that parents who lost a child have increased risks of cardiovascular diseases, including ischemic heart disease and atrial fibrillation. Whether bereaved parents have an increased risk of stroke is unclear and was investigated in this study.Methods:We conducted a population-based cohort study including parents who had a child born during 1973-2016 or 1973-2014 and recorded in the Danish and the Swedish Medical Birth Registers, respectively. We obtained information on child’s death, parent’s stroke and socioeconomic and health-related characteristics through linkage between several population-based registers. We used Poisson regression to examine the association between the death of a child and the risk of stroke.Results:Of the 6,711,955 study participants, 128,744 (1.9%) experienced the death of a child and 141,840 (2.1%) had a stroke during the follow-up. Bereaved parents had an increased risk of stroke; the corresponding incidence rate ratio (95% confidence intervals) was 1.23 (1.19-1.27). The association was present for all analyzed categories of causes of child death (cardiovascular, other natural and unnatural death), did not differ substantially according to the age of the deceased child, but was stronger if the parent had no or ≥3 than 1-2 live children at the time of the loss. The association was similar for ischemic and hemorrhagic stroke. The risk for hemorrhagic stroke was highest immediately after the death of a child and decreased afterwards. In contrast, there was no clear pattern over time in case of ischemic stroke.Discussion:The death of a child was associated with a modestly increased risk of stroke. The finding that an association was observed in case of unnatural deaths is suggestive of the explanation that bereavement-related stress may contribute to the development of stroke. Though the death of a child can often not be avoided, an understanding of its health-related consequences may highlight the need for improved support and attention from family members and healthcare professionals.


1984 ◽  
Vol 20 (2) ◽  
pp. 168-185 ◽  
Author(s):  
Alan R. Sack ◽  
James F. Keller ◽  
Dennis E. Hinkle

2018 ◽  
Author(s):  
Leif Ekblad

For typical people previous results have found that a few percent identify as asexual based on having no sexual attraction to anybody and this was confirmed for typical people in the study. For neurodiverse people, it was hypothesized that the primary reason for self-identifying as asexual was dislike or disgust for typical relationship preferences, and in particular for sexual penetration. This was confirmed with correlations and mediation analysis in the study. Neurodiverse females had the highest rates of identifying as asexual, with less than half of them answering “no” to a question about being asexual. Asexual self-identification didn't cluster with sexual orientation. Disgust for sexual intercourse and asexual self-identification as a teenager mediated problems with sexual intimacy later in life.


2019 ◽  
Vol 168 ◽  
pp. 89-98
Author(s):  
Ryszard Kupidura

Between self-reference and artistic experiment: The motif of a child’s death in the literary works of Mykhailo Kotsiubynsky and Volodymyr VynnychenkoMykhailo Kotsiubynsky and Volodymyr Vynnychenko had two opposing types of creative personalities. According to many scholars, Kotsiubynsky was a representative of the Apollonian element of Ukrainian culture, while Vynnychenko embodied the Dionysian. The author of this article focuses on the role of the motif of a child’s death in their works and argues that in the case of Kotsiubynsky, the death of a child triggers his confession, while for Vynnychenko it functions as an opportunity to conduct an artistic experiment. Між автотематизмом та художнім експериментом — мотив смерті дитини у творчості Михайла Коцюбинського та Володимира ВинниченкаМихайло Коцюбинський та Володимир Винниченко належать до двох протилежних типів творчих особистостей. За деякими дослідниками, перший презентує аполлонійське начало української культури, водночас другий — діонісійське. У статті автор простежить, яку функцію в їхній творчості виконує тема смерті дитини. У випадку Коцюбинського вона буде поштовхом до авторської сповіді, натомість для автора Чесності з собою загибель безневинного немовляти стане приводом для художніх експериментів.


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