On Our Difficulties Speaking to and About the Dying
Interactions with dying and bereaved people in modern society are frequently marked by awkwardness, embarrassment, and silence, reactions that influence the patterns of care people receive near the end of life, as well as the quality of their interpersonal relationships. These reactions are usually interpreted in terms of personal psychology and individual behavior, which gives rise to remedies for health professionals in the form of communications skills training and personal self-awareness. From the perspective of social and cultural history, however, these reactions are a manifestation of shame induced by exposure to, or reminders of, the physical body—its functions and its disintegration—that the processes of “civilization” have progressively demanded be kept out of sight and out of consciousness. Changes in behavior from this perspective will depend on long-term social movements that bring the body and its functions within the boundaries of acceptable personal reflection and social engagement.