Meeting Potential Parents-In-Law and Introducing a Partner to Own Parents: Prospective and Retrospective Studies

Parents-in-law are an important part of adult relationships. Contact with them may affect satisfaction and marital success of a married couple. Previous research shows that amount of contact with in-laws, support given by them and conflicts with them have a significant impact on the life of a couple. Little research has explored relationships of parents and parents-in-law with a couple before marriage. Even less is known about the beginnings of these relationships. This research consists of two studies which explored the vision and memories of the first meetings of potential in-laws and parents as a couple. Study 1 (N1 = 34, age M = 23.40, SD = 2.32, Woman = 64.70% N1) asked the participants how they imagined those events, while evaluating stress accompanying them. The participants reported predictions of feeling stressed by both events, but also of excitement, having no expectations, being ashamed by their own parents or being trustful in parents’ behavior. Stress assessments of both events are inconclusive in establishing whether one of them is more stressful than the other. In Study 2 (N2 = 8, age M = 23.50, SD = 2.67, Woman = 62.50% N2) a sample of young adults was interviewed about their memories concerning situations of meeting their in-laws and introducing their partner to their own parents. The respondents recalled 37 features, of which experiencing stress and fear in both situations was common. All reflected on the way that the meeting happened and all but one described how they had prepared for it.

Kedewasaan Usia Perkawinan Perspektif Hadis Nabi Muhammad dengan Pendekatan Interkoneksitas Maslahah

Indonesian Muslims have not maximally applied maturity of marriage age as an important aspect in obtaining marital success. Apart from the concept of maturity of diverse marriage age, divorces and many marital problems based on the immaturity of a married couple still rife in Indonesia. The government has even issued regulations related to the age of marriage through Law number 1 of 1974 that was revised by Law number 16 of 2019, which stipulates that marriage is limited to a minimum age of 19 years for the two brides. This article aims to find the concept of quality-oriented marriage age to complement the quantity-oriented idea as applied by the Indonesian government and as understood differently by Muslims based on the opinions of the scholars (‘ulamā). This article abstracts the concept of the ideal age of marriage from the instructions of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH as the primary reference of Islamic teachings by discussing the hadīth using the ma‘ānī al-ḥadīṡ analysis with three interpretation techniques namely textual, intertextual, and contextual interpretation to obtain comprehensive meaning. The results of the examination show that the hadīth requires the criteria for the maturity of the marriage age in the form of religious, physical, financial, and social maturity. These qualitative criteria fulfill the element of maqāṣid al-syarī‘ah and are interconnected so that they should be actualized as a new basis in the formulation of policies related to the maturity of marriage age in Muslim societies.

“Redha tu Ikhlas”: The Social–Textual Significance of Islamic Virtue in Malay Forced Marriage Narratives

What accounts for the endurance of forced marriage (kahwin paksa) narratives in Malaysian public culture? How does one explain the ways popular fascination with forced marriage relate to assumptions about heteronormative institutions and practices? In a society where most who enter into marriages do so based on individual choice, the enduring popularity of forced marriage as a melodramatic trope in fictional love stories suggests an ambivalence about modernity and egalitarianism. This ambivalence is further excavated by illuminating the intertextual engagement by readers, publishers and booksellers of Malay romantic fiction with a mediated discourse on intimacy and cultural practices. This article finds that forced marriage in the intimate publics of Malay romance is delivered as a kind of melodramatic mode, a storytelling strategy to solve practical problems of experience. Intertextual narratives of pain and struggle cast light on ‘redha’ (submission to God’s will) and ‘sabar’ (patience), emotional virtues that are mobilised during personal hardship and the challenge of maintaining successful marital relations. I argue that ‘redha’ and ‘sabar’ serve as important linchpins for the reproduction of heteronormative institutions and wifely obedience (taat). This article also demonstrates the ways texts are interwoven in the narratives about gender roles, intimacy, and marital success (or lack thereof) and how they relate to the modes of romantic melodrama.

Socio – psychological factors of successful adaptation of adults with cerebral palsy at the community level

Unfortunately, statistics on the birth of children with disabilities in the world are growing every year. Depending on the diagnosis and specifics of development, each child needs special care, upbringing and training. One of the types of institutions in Ukraine that provide training, upbringing, and correction of psychophysiological features of the development of children and teens is rehabilitation centres. Conditions in them are created following the needs of a particular group of people which is as comfortable as possible. Also, the specifics of training and rehabilitation provide an individual's psychological growth and development among people who have similar developmental features, and therefore the same "strengths" and "weaknesses". Cerebral palsy (CP) is defined as a persistent disorder of posture caused by a non-progressive pathological one of the developing brain. Every graduate of rehabilitation centres needs social support and assistance in adapting to an adult, independent life. Such support makes a person feel less alone reduces anxiety and feelings of loneliness and isolation. Social workers become guides from one social environment to another, mitigating such a transition as much as possible for people with mental and physical disabilities, who are one of the most vulnerable segments of the population. Individuals in later adolescence are on the verge of a crucial transition to adult life. This developmental stage involves the challenges of making living arrangements, setting goals, establishing independence, and forming social relationships (Spekman, Goldberg, & Herman, 1992). It may be a difficult period for young people with physical disabilities who face unemployment, low income, social isolation, and lack of advice (Hirst, 1982). Later adolescence also is a time of self-evaluation and comparison with others, and young people with disabilities may be forced to reflect on their physical differences and areas of competence. These developments ultimately affect their success in life and happiness. For instance, Clausen (1993) has shown that adolescent competence is linked to occupational, financial, and marital success.

The Rainbow’s Generational Masochisms

Husband and wife in D.H. Lawrence’s The Rainbow equally embrace and use masochism as a tool of intense interpersonal interaction. Lawrence approaches the first Brangwen generation, Tom and Lydia, with a subtle gesture to their capacity for masochism. As their daughter, Anna, marries Will, this second generation is marked by a keen consciousness of the need for mutual masochism in order to render their partnership successful. Anna and Will are extraordinarily well-matched and, in many ways, could be considered Lawrence’s marital ideal. In direct conversation with the flat and failed masochistic experimentation of their daughter, Ursula, Will and Anna’s relationship is telling in its dynamic reciprocity. This chapter traces the three generations in the novel and the ways in which Lawrence’s portrait of marital success is contingent upon the recognition of marriage as an already accepted, socially and legally sanctioned form of masochism.

Interfaith Marriage as a Protest Against Bigotry?

This chapter revisits controversies in the 1950s and 1960s over interfaith marriage. Commentators debated whether objections to interfaith marriage stemmed from bigotry and intolerance or legitimate grounds, such as lower rates of marital success. The chapter reviews diagnoses of such marriages as resulting from assimilation and increasing social contact among Protestants, Catholics, and Jews. Some contended that young people intermarried to protest against bigotry. Cautions against interfaith marriage—particularly mixed marriage, where spouses retained their distinct religions—appealed to science to fortify religious arguments. Objectors warned of harms to spouses’ conscience and to children’s sense of identity. Comparing diagnoses of both interfaith and interracial marriage as problem marriages, the chapter discusses Albert I. Gordon’s Intermarriage (1964), which featured in Virginia’s defense of its anti-miscegenation law in Loving v. Virginia (1967). The chapter ends by considering early twenty-first-century analyses of interfaith marriage.

The Implications of Sociosexuality for Marital Satisfaction and Dissolution

Most people will get married, and maintaining a quality marriage is critical to well-being. Nevertheless, many intimates experience declines in marital satisfaction, and a substantial proportion of marriages dissolve. Drawing from functional perspectives of human mating, we argue that one source of marital discord and dissolution is that people vary in their motivations to pursue uncommitted sex—that is, sociosexuality. We examined this possibility using data from two independent longitudinal studies of 204 newlywed couples and used actor–partner interdependence growth-curve modeling. Results demonstrated that relatively unrestricted (vs. restricted) sociosexuality was associated with an increased probability of relationship dissolution through declines in marital satisfaction over time. Additional exploratory analyses provided preliminary evidence suggesting that frequent sex, high sexual satisfaction, and low stress weaken this association. These primary findings suggest that strong motives to pursue uncommitted sex may interfere with marital success, and the latter findings suggest potential buffers for these negative outcomes.

A Comparative Study of Dissolution of Marriage on Account of the Missing Husband (Mafqūd-ul-Khaber) and Women Problems

It is not only a husband who has been given a right to divorce his wife in case of any discord but the wife has also been given a right to ask for separation in Islam. Islam commands the husband to retain the wife in kindness and to take every possible measure for maximization of marital success. This paper provides an analytical study of the right of women in Islamic and Pakistani laws to get separation when her husband remains missing. It also analyzes the status of the missing of the husband and the problems faced by the wife while getting separation through court in case of a missing husband. A survey in the form of interviews was conducted to highlight the reasons of not filing the missing husband cases in the courts.

Building the Marital Muscle Groups

Marriage enrichment is a wellness-based approach to strengthening key areas of marital success. This article develops the metaphor of marital muscle groups and integrates Adlerian theories of development and personality with Gottman’s behavioral approach to provide a model of enrichment that can be applied in a clinical setting. A case example illustrates the application of the approach.