“They’re playing our song”: Couple-defining songs in intimate relationships

2019 ◽  
Vol 37 (1) ◽  
pp. 163-179 ◽  
Author(s):  
Celia B. Harris ◽  
Amee Baird ◽  
Sophia A. Harris ◽  
William Forde Thompson
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Social Relationships ◽  
Intimate Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Positive Emotions ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Music Appreciation ◽  
Relationship Length ◽  
Emotion And Memory ◽  
Relationship Intimacy

Music has been argued to contribute to well-being in multiple ways, through its links to identity, social relationships, emotion, and memory. We investigated the phenomenon of “couple-defining songs (CDSs),” in which members of a couple come to jointly identify their relationship with a particular song. Two hundred participants who were currently in a romantic relationship, diverse in age and relationship length and status, reported whether they had a CDS. Those who reported a CDS described its origins and meaning, and any memories and emotions elicited by thinking about their song. In addition, participants completed measures of music appreciation and relationship intimacy. We found that CDSs were common, relatively unique to romantic relationships, and associated with higher music appreciation and higher intimacy. CDSs tended to be acquired early in relationships, and they cued positive emotions and specific memories. These findings suggest that CDSs represent a common and understudied phenomenon. We propose that the multifaceted nature of music may contribute to the prevalence of CDSs in intimate relationships.

scholarly journals Adolescent Girls’ Disclosure About Dating and Sexuality

2019 ◽  
Vol 40 (7) ◽  
pp. 887-910
Author(s):  
Sarah E. Killoren ◽  
Nicole M. Campione-Barr ◽  
Samantha K. Jones ◽  
Sonia E. Giron
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Multilevel Modeling ◽  
Adolescent Girls ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Sexual Attitudes ◽  
Family Members ◽  
Partner Selection ◽  
Positive Relationships ◽  
Sibling Status ◽  
Relationship Intimacy

Adolescents disclose information about romantic relationships and sexuality to family members and friends, but little is known about the correlates of this disclosure. We examined adolescent girls’ ( N = 68; 34 sister dyads) choice of disclosure partner regarding thoughts/concerns about dating and sexuality. Adolescents were more likely to choose mothers and sisters (compared with friends) as disclosure partners regarding dating and sexuality topics. Using multilevel modeling, we also examined romantic relationship and sexual correlates of disclosure partner selection. Adolescents’ disclosure to mothers and sisters was associated with positive relationships. We also found that adolescents who selected mothers as disclosure partners for sexuality reported greater romantic relationship intimacy and adolescents who selected friends as disclosure partners for sexuality reported less conservative sexual attitudes than other adolescents. Furthermore, our findings revealed that adolescents’ choice of disclosure partner was associated with their sexual attitudes, and these associations differed by topic and sibling status.

The Effects of Shyness on Love Styles and Relationship Status

2007 ◽  
Vol 101 (2) ◽  
pp. 670-672 ◽  
Author(s):  
Philip G. Erwin
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Social Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Relationship Status ◽  
Social Expectations ◽  
Chi Square ◽  
Love Styles ◽  
Chi Square Test ◽  
Love Attitudes ◽  
Positive Correlations

As prior research has indicated that shyness is associated with social anxiety, inhibition, and generally less fulfilling social relationships, this study examined the possible affect of shyness on one specific type of relationship, romantic love. Participants ( N=124) completed the Revised Cheek-Buss Shyness Scale and the Love Attitudes Scale, and provided basic information about themselves and their current romantic relationships. A chi-square test showed no significant association between high or low Shyness scores and whether participants were currently involved in a romantic relationship, but there were significant positive correlations between these scores and those on two of the six love styles, Storge and Mania. In interpreting the results, the effects of shyness on relationships, social expectations, and love attitudes are discussed.

Positive Processes in Close Relationships

2019 ◽  
Author(s):  
Shelly L. Gable ◽  
Natalya C. Maisel
Keyword(s):  
Intimate Relationships ◽  
Positive Emotions ◽  
Human Life ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Self Concept ◽  
Positive Events ◽  
Future Directions ◽  
The Social ◽  
Close Relationship ◽  
Health And Well Being

Although psychologists have learned a great deal about negative and harmful processes in relationships, they have focused less on understanding the positive and beneficial processes in relationships. Of course, almost every close relationship offers the promise of both meaningful rewards and substantial risks, such as support, intimacy, companionship, conflict, rejection, and criticism. In this chapter, we attempt to highlight the complexities involved in relationships and emphasize the positive processes, with the goal of creating a picture that represents the dynamic reality of the social world. We first discuss the important role that intimate relationships play in human life and their strong links with health and well-being. We then highlight research on the positive processes in relationships, such as positive emotions, intimacy, growth of the self-concept, and the benefits of sharing positive events. This work complements previous literature, which has tended to focus on the potential pitfalls in relationships. Inherent in our position is that a lack of negatives in a relationship is not equivalent to a positive relationship; just as an absence of psychopathology is not equivalent to flourishing. We end with outlining future directions in the positive psychology of relationships, such as a greater focus on biology and health and the need for examining moderating conditions.

scholarly journals The role of forgiveness on subjective well-being of university students in their romantic relationships Üniversite öğrencilerinin romantik ilişkilerinde affetmenin öznel iyi oluşları üzerindeki rolü

2017 ◽  
Vol 14 (4) ◽  
Author(s):  
Seher Balcı Çelik ◽  
Gülden Öztürk Serter
Keyword(s):  
University Students ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Personal Information ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Subjective Well Being ◽  
Satisfaction Scale ◽  
The People ◽  
The Individual ◽  
Negative Feelings

The concept of "subjective well-being" is used as a term for happiness in positive psychology.  The subjective well-being called "happiness" among the people is the emotional and cognitive evaluation of the life. Being in a romantic relationship is one of the factors that increase the subjective well-being of the individual. Being in a romantic relationship can provide satisfaction and happiness to the individual, as well as causing events that would lead to get hurt from time to time. Here, the individual displays behaviours such as avoidance or revenge or prefers forgiving as a result of negative emotions caused by getting hurt. In this study, it is aimed to investigate whether the forgiveness levels of university students who have romantic relationship predicts the subjective well-being or not. The study is performed on 329 students who are studying at Hitit University and On Dokuz Mayıs University in 2016-2017 academic year and who have romantic relationships. "Heartland Forgiveness Scale", "Positive Negative Feelings Scale" and "Life Satisfaction Scale" and "Personal Information Form" prepared by the researchers are used in the study. In the study, it can be stated that as the forgiveness scores of the students increase, the subjective well-being scores are also found to increase thus high forgiveness is a factor that increases the subjective well-being level. As a result of the study, the predictor effect of forgiveness levels on subjective well-being is examined and it is determined that self-forgiveness, forgiving others and forgiving the situation which are the sub-dimensions of forgiveness explain 13% of the subjective well-being. Extended English abstract is in the end of Full Text PDF (TURKISH) file.Özet“Öznel iyi-oluş” kavramı pozitif psikolojide mutluluk kavramının karşılığı olarak kullanılmaktadır. Halk arasında ”mutluluk” olarak adlandırılan öznel iyi oluş yaşamın duygusal ve bilişsel açıdan değerlendirilmesidir. Romantik ilişki içerisinde olmak, bireyin öznel iyi oluşunu artıran etkenlerden biridir. Romantik ilişki içerisinde olmak bireylere doyum ve mutluluk sağladığı gibi zaman zaman incinmesine yol açacak olaylar yaşamasına da neden olabilmektedir. Birey incinmenin getirdiği olumsuz duygular sonucunda kaçınma ya da öç alma gibi davranışlar sergilemekte ya da affetme yolunu seçmektedir. Bu çalışmada romantik ilişki yaşayan üniversite öğrencilerinin affedicilik düzeylerinin öznel iyi oluşlarını yordayıp yordamadığının incelenmesi amaçlanmıştır. Çalışma 2016-2017 eğitim öğretim yılında Hitit Üniversitesi ve Ondokuz Mayıs Üniversitesinde öğrenim gören ve romantik ilişkisi olan 329 öğrenci üzerinde gerçekleştirilmiştir. Çalışmada araştırmacılar tarafından hazırlanan “Kişisel Bilgi Formu” ile “Heartland Affetme Ölçeği”, “Pozitif Negatif Duygu Ölçeği” ve “Yaşam Doyum Ölçeği” kullanılmıştır. Araştırmada öğrencilerin affetme puanları arttıkça öznel iyi oluş puanlarının da arttığı belirlenmiştir ve bu sonuca göre affediciliğin yüksek olmasının öznel iyi oluş düzeyini artıran bir faktör olduğu söylenebilir. Araştırma sonucunda affedicilik düzeylerinin öznel iyi oluş üzerinde yordayıcı etkisi incelenmiş ve affetmenin alt boyutları olan kendini affetme, başkalarını affetme ve durumu affetme öznel iyi oluşun  % 13’ünü açıkladığı belirlenmiştir.

“Mom, dad, look at me”: The development of the Parental Phubbing Scale

2020 ◽  
pp. 026540752096486
Author(s):  
Luca Pancani ◽  
Tiziano Gerosa ◽  
Marco Gui ◽  
Paolo Riva
Keyword(s):  
Social Context ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Social Relationships ◽  
Positive Relationship ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Psychological Consequences ◽  
Negative Consequences ◽  
Stratified Sample ◽  
New Challenges ◽  
Social Disconnection

The widespread diffusion of smartphones has opened new challenges regarding the psychological consequences of their usage on social relationships. The term phubbing (a combination of phone and snubbing) indicates the act of ignoring someone in a social context by paying attention to the smartphone. The few existing studies show that phubbing is widespread, mutually reinforced, and socially accepted, with possible negative consequences for social and individual well-being. Phubbing can occur in every social context, including romantic relationships, workplaces, and family. However, to date, minimal attention has been given to the possible impact that phubbing carried out by parents can have on their children. To start filling this gap, in this paper, we introduced a new scale that measures the perception of being subject to parental phubbing and showed the prevalence of perceived phubbing on a stratified sample of 3,289 adolescents. Firstly, the dimensionality, validity, and invariance of the construct were proven. Moreover, our results showed a positive relationship between children’s perceived levels of parental phubbing and their feelings of social disconnection with parents, thus suggesting that the more children felt that one or both of their parents were phubbing them, the less the children felt connected with their parents.

The importance of relationships with parents and best friends for adolescents’ romantic relationship quality: Differences between indigenous and ethnic Dutch adolescents

2010 ◽  
Vol 34 (2) ◽  
pp. 121-127 ◽  
Author(s):  
Thao Ha ◽  
Geertjan Overbeek ◽  
Marieke de Greef ◽  
Ron H.J. Scholte ◽  
Rutger C.M.E. Engels
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Self Report ◽  
Hierarchical Regression ◽  
Adolescent Relationships ◽  
Relationship Intimacy ◽  
Best Friendships ◽  
Adolescent Relationship ◽  
Romantic Relationship Quality

This study examined how the quality of relationships with parents and friends were related to intimacy, commitment, and passion in adolescents’ romantic relationships for indigenous Dutch and ethnic Dutch adolescents. Self-report survey data were used from 444 (88.9%) indigenous Dutch and 55 (11.1%) ethnic Dutch adolescents between 12 and 18 years of age (M = 15.34, SD = 1.14), all of whom were involved in a romantic relationship. About 61.6% (n = 307) were girls. For both indigenous and ethnic Dutch youths, the quality of the parent—adolescent relationship was positively associated with romantic relationship intimacy, whereas the quality of one’s best friendship was related to higher commitment to one’s romantic partner. Significant interactions in hierarchical regression analyses revealed that only ethnic Dutch adolescents who experienced low-quality parent—adolescent relationships showed more commitment to their romantic relationships. Additionally, ethnic Dutch adolescents who experienced low-quality best friendships showed more passion in their romantic relationships as compared to indigenous Dutch adolescents. These findings are indicative of ethnic differences in the roles that parents and friends play in the romantic lives of Dutch adolescents.

scholarly journals Are online behaviors damaging our in-person connections? Passive versus active social media use on romantic relationships

2021 ◽  
Vol 15 (1) ◽  
Author(s):  
Selena I. Quiroz ◽  
Kristin D. Mickelson
Keyword(s):  
Social Media ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Relationship Satisfaction ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Media Use ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Negative Association ◽  
Social Media Use ◽  
Men And Women ◽  
Relationship Health

Social media has been extensively researched, and its impact on well-being is becoming more clear. What is less clear, however, is the role of social media on romantic relationships, with the few existing studies finding mixed results. In an attempt to reconcile these discrepancies, the current study explored types of social media use (i.e., active use and passive use) as moderators between frequency of social media use and relationship health (i.e., relationship satisfaction and commitment). Participants were 432 adults in a romantic relationship for at least three months. Results showed that women who passively use social media at moderate to high levels exhibited negative associations between hours per day of social media use and relationship satisfaction, and hours per day of social media use and commitment. On the other hand, active use may ameliorate the negative association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health for both women and men. Specifically, men and women reporting low levels of active use exhibited a stronger negative association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health than those who reported moderate levels of active use. Additionally, there was no association between hours per day of social media use and relationship health for men and women reporting high levels of active use. Implications of these findings are discussed, as well as future directions based on these findings.

scholarly journals Romantic (versus other) events and momentary affect: Immediate and lagged within-person associations among college students [PREPRINT]

2021 ◽  
Author(s):  
Shari M. Blumenstock ◽  
Lauren Papp
Keyword(s):  
College Students ◽  
Negative Affect ◽  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Multilevel Models ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Life Domains ◽  
Dating Relationships ◽  
The Moment ◽  
Ecological Momentary

Given that affect is highly responsive to experiences representing current goals and values, and young adulthood reflects a period in which romantic relationships become increasingly important, this study explored the links between everyday romantic relationship events and momentary affect among young adult college students. Romantic events were then directly compared to academic and family events—two other salient life domains for these students—as predictors of current and subsequent momentary affect. Drawn from an ecological momentary sampling study designed to assess substance use, participants in dating relationships (N=130) completed four reports per day for 28 days (totaling 10,318 reports). Multilevel models tested within-person associations between positive and negative romantic events (broadly defined) as predictors of positive (e.g., happy, excited) and negative (e.g., sad, lonely) affect in the moment and beyond. Analyses included both event occurrence and event intensity models, facilitating event comparison. Models accounted for day-level effects and several relevant individual and relationship controls. Results indicated that positive romantic events were associated with immediate and lasting increases in positive affect and immediate (but not always lasting) decreases in negative affect, whereas negative romantic events were associated with immediate and lasting changes in both positive and negative affect. When significant, direct comparisons indicated that romantic events were associated with larger changes in concurrent and subsequent affect than academic or family events. Findings highlight the powerful role that young adults’ romantic relationships play in their emotional well-being, particularly in comparison to other developmentally and environmentally salient life domains.

Bridging the Sciences of Mindfulness and Romantic Relationships

2016 ◽  
Vol 21 (1) ◽  
pp. 29-49 ◽  
Author(s):  
Johan C. Karremans ◽  
Melanie P. J. Schellekens ◽  
Gesa Kappen
Keyword(s):  
Romantic Relationships ◽  
Romantic Relationship ◽  
Indirect Evidence ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Future Research ◽  
Relationship Functioning ◽  
Present Moment ◽  
Future Research Agenda ◽  
Proposed Model

Research on mindfulness, defined as paying conscious and non-judgmental attention to present-moment experiences, has increased rapidly in the past decade but has focused almost entirely on the benefits of mindfulness for individual well-being. This article considers the role of mindfulness in romantic relationships. Although strong claims have been made about the potentially powerful role of mindfulness in creating better relationships, it is less clear whether, when, and how this may occur. This article integrates the literatures on mindfulness and romantic relationship science, and sketches a theory-driven model and future research agenda to test possible pathways of when and how mindfulness may affect romantic relationship functioning. We review some initial direct and indirect evidence relevant to the proposed model. Finally, we discuss the implications of how studying mindfulness may further our understanding of romantic relationship (dys)functioning, and how mindfulness may be a promising and effective tool in couple interventions.

Curiosity and Interest: The Benefits of Thriving on Novelty and Challenge

2009 ◽  
pp. 366-374 ◽  
Author(s):  
Todd B. Kashdan ◽  
Paul J. Silvia
Keyword(s):  
Quality Of Life ◽  
Everyday Life ◽  
Social Relationships ◽  
Positive Emotions ◽  
Well Being ◽  
Scientific Attention

An imbalance exists between the role of curiosity as a motivational force in nearly all human endeavors and the lack of scientific attention given to the topic. In recent years, however, there has been a proliferation of concepts that capture the essence of curiosity—recognizing, seeking out, and showing a preference for the new. In this chapter, we combine this work to address the nature of curiosity, where it fits in the larger scheme of positive emotions, the advantages of being curious in social relationships, links between curiosity and elements of well-being, and how it has been used in interventions to improve people's quality of life. Our emphasis is on methodologically sophisticated findings that show how curiosity operates in the laboratory and everyday life, and how, under certain conditions, curiosity can be a profound source of strength or a liability. People who are regularly curious and willing to embrace the novelty, uncertainty, and challenges that are inevitable as we navigate the shoals of everyday life are at an advantage in creating a fulfilling existence compared with their less curious peers. Our brief review is designed to bring further attention to this neglected, underappreciated, human universal.

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