Perkawinan Dalam Perspektif Tasawuf

This dissertation discusses Marriage in the perspective of Sufism (Study of analysis of Legislation on Marriage in Indonesia). This is done considering the high divorce rate in Indonesia even though the legislation regarding marriage has been made quite a lot by the government and even the Marriage Law No. 1 of 1974 and the Compilation of Islamic Law have long been enacted. The purpose of this study is to find out why Islamic marriage regulations and legislation in Indonesia have not been able to stem the flow of divorce and family disharmony, and what solutions can be offered in minimizing divorce in Indonesia, as well as how to establish marriage law with the Sufism approach. The process of collecting data is done by means of library research (Library Research). The reading material is described and analyzed using qualitative methods so that the causes of the high divorce rate in Indonesia are found. After the discussion, two main problems were found, namely formal problems and non-formal problems. Formal problems are problems that are related to the rules and regulations of marriage itself. While non-formal problems are problems that arise from the personal members of each family. To overcome problems related to formal problems, the solution offered is the need to review several articles in the Marriage Law Number 1 of 1974 and need to revive the functions of the Marriage Advisory Counseling and Conservation Agency (BP4) as before the Marriage Law Number 1 year 1974. Meanwhile, to overcome problems related to non-formal problems, it is necessary to give Sufism teachings to the bride and groom who are delivered when they attend bride and groom courses organized by the Ministry of Religion throughout Indonesia. In order to establish marriage law with the Sufism approach, the connection between Sufism values and laws in the frame of benefit is needed. For this reason, the values of Sufism such as warak and zuhud and qonaah and so on need to be developed and integrated in connection with marriage law. The interconnection of the values of Sufism with marriage law is needed in numbers to minimize the divorce rate in Indonesia. Keywords: Marriage law, Sufism

Ubuntu: A countermeasure for challenges of child-rearing

The research examines the contributions of the African Indigenous Knowledge System and, more precisely, the African traditional philosophy of community or Ubuntu as a countermeasure against the challenges of child-rearing in a changing society. The research contends that Ubuntu has a sagacity from which the world can learn lessons to combat the challenges of child-rearing in a changing society. Challenges named above are mainly due to society becoming more modernized, and individualistic thereby neglecting African ways of child rearing. This is the case with urbanization whereby many people move to urban places for economic prospects. Another challenge is that of family decay worldwide, where there’s an increase in a number of single parenting due to a number of factors. Some of those factors are due to the high divorce rate, the death of a partner etc. The author argues that Ubuntu can contribute to offering helpful solutions to the challenges under study. The research utilises the secondary research or desk research methodology. The results show that Ubuntu is a likely good countermeasure against the myriad of challenges in child-rearing worldwide. The research concludes that the utilisation of this African philosophy may be extremely valuable in contributing supportively to the many challenges of childrearing faced by people worldwide.

SYIQAQ SEBAGAI ALASAN PERCERAIAN DI PENGADILAN AGAMA TULUNGAGUNG

Marriage is an inner and outer bond based on the rules of religion and the laws between a man and a woman to constitute both inner and outer happy family. However, the high number of failing cases and divorce decisions in the Religious Court shows that there are various factors that might be a trigger to the failure of a marriage. A number of divorce cases data in Tulungagung Regency shows 225 divorce cases per month with an average of 20 lawsuits every day. The data in 2017 show that out of 3,114 divorce cases 2,150 cases were filed by women. The results of the analysis show that the high divorce rate is one of the dominance factor of dispute or quarrel (syiqoq) which was triggered by the following reasons; economy, one party leaves another party, continuous disputes, domestic violence, adultery, drunkenness and gambling. The high interest of the people of Tulungagung Regency who work as both Indonesian workers and female workers (TKI/ TKW) allegedly contributed to high divorce rate by the reason of syiqoq.

Desain Bahan Pembinaan Suami-Istri Kristen untuk Ketahanan Keluarga Warga Gereja

The high divorce rate in Indonesia, including among Christian families, has in recent years been a struggle together. Divorce itself is the mouth of a variety of pressures faced by Christian families that are not properly resolved. Not a few Christian families have a vulnerable resilience due to their inability to manage conflicts that occur. On the other hand, the Church must recognize that it has an ethical and theological responsibility to maintain the resilience of the family members of its congregation. However, the fact is that most churches do not have a programmed mission to nurture husband and wife members of their congregations in order to maintain family resilience. In fact, many churches do not have documented teaching material for cultivating Christian families. This article is a summary of development research that seeks to create a design for Christian husband and wife formation materials that can later be used by church leaders for the survival of the family of church members. The research method used is Research and Development (R & D), which is used to produce certain products, and test their effectiveness. In this research, the design of Christian husband and wife guidance materials for the family resilience of church members is produced.

PEMENUHAN KEBUTUHAN DASAR ANAK OLEH ORANG TUA PASCA PERCERAIAN

Jember is a district with a high divorce rate in the East Java province. Divorcing leaves behind a victim which is the child of a divorced couple. Children who are victims of broken home usually have negative behavior both for themselves and the surrounding environment due to family conditions that are broke apart. In addition, the needs of broken home child unlike when the family is still intact. But the children's victim of the divorced parents in Tegalsari Village did not show deviant behavior like most children who were victims of broken home. The purpose of this study is to describe how to fulfill the basic needs of children by parents after divorce. The approach of this research is qualitative and uses descriptive type of research. Determination of informants in this study using a purposive technique. The technique of collecting data uses observation, interviews, and documentation. Data analysis used data reduction, data presentation, and conclusion or verification. The data validity technique used is in the form of source triangulation. The results showed that both divorced parents still met their children's needs even though they were not in one house. Needs fulfilled by parents are educational needs, health needs and needs of achievement. The way fathers and mothers fulfill their children's needs is somewhat different. Mothers in meeting their children's needs are more responsive, organized and resilient starting from simple things to serious problems. While the father in fulfilling his children's needs is less sensitive to the needs of his child. It means that the father in meeting the needs of his children seems serious when the problem is considered very important, for example a child who is seriously ill must be taken to the hospital and others. Jember merupakan salah satu kabupaten dengan tingkat perceraian yang tinggi di Provinsi Jawa Timur. Perceraian meninggalkan korban yang merupakan anak dari pasangan yang bercerai. Anak-anak yang menjadi korban broken home biasanya memiliki perilaku negatif baik terhadap diri sendiri maupun lingkungan sekitarnya akibat kondisi keluarga yang berantakan. Selain itu, kebutuhan anak broken home tidak seperti saat keluarga masih utuh. Namun anak-anak korban dari orang tua yang bercerai di Desa Tegalsari tidak menunjukkan perilaku menyimpang seperti kebanyakan anak yang menjadi korban broken home. Tujuan penelitian ini adalah untuk mendeskripsikan bagaimana pemenuhan kebutuhan dasar anak oleh orang tua pasca perceraian. Pendekatan penelitian ini adalah kualitatif dan menggunakan jenis penelitian deskriptif. Penentuan informan dalam penelitian ini menggunakan teknik purposive. Teknik pengumpulan data menggunakan observasi, wawancara, dan dokumentasi. Analisis data menggunakan reduksi data, penyajian data, dan penarikan kesimpulan atau verifikasi. Teknik keabsahan data yang digunakan berupa triangulasi sumber. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa kedua orang tua yang bercerai tetap dapat memenuhi kebutuhan anaknya meskipun tidak berada dalam satu rumah. Kebutuhan yang dipenuhi oleh orang tua adalah kebutuhan pendidikan, kebutuhan kesehatan dan kebutuhan berprestasi. Cara ayah dan ibu memenuhi kebutuhan anak mereka agak berbeda. Ibu dalam memenuhi kebutuhan anaknya lebih tanggap, teratur dan ulet mulai dari hal yang sederhana hingga masalah yang serius. Sedangkan ayah dalam memenuhi kebutuhan anaknya kurang peka terhadap kebutuhan anaknya. Artinya bapak dalam memenuhi kebutuhan anaknya nampak serius padahal masalah dianggap sangat penting, misalnya anak yang sakit parah harus dibawa ke rumah sakit dan lain-lain.

Tingkat Perceraian Muslim dan Non muslim Di Indonesia

The divorce rate in the Religious caused sakralitas marriage in Islam is relatively loose rules, so divorce is prone to happen. it is evident, the high divorce rate in the Religious, although its survival is limited, but still very interested in solving the problems of marriage. This is in contrast with the divorce rate in the non-Muslim communities. Therefore, this study tried to find answers to the problems that occur.Keywords: Divorce, Domestic, MarriageAbstrak: Meningkatnya angka perceraian di Pengadilan Agama disebabkan karena sakralitas perkawinan dalam aturan Islam relatif longgar, sehingga perceraian rentan terjadi. Hal ini dibuktikan tingginya angka perceraian di Pengadilan Agama, walaupun dibatasi keberlangsungannya, tetapi masih sangat diminati dalam menyelesaikan problematika perkawinan. Hal ini berbeda dengan tingkat perceraian dalam lingkungan masyarakat non muslim. Karenanya, penelitian ini mencoba mencari jawaban atas problematika yang terjadi.Kata Kunci: Perceraian, Rumah Tangga, Perkawinan

PERATURAN BUPATI ROKAN HULU PROVINSI RIAU NOMOR 5 TAHUN 2016 TENTANG KEWAJIBAN MENGIKUTI KURSUS PRA-NIKAH

This article examines the review of Islamic law against regulation of Rokan Hulu District No. 5 of 2016 on pre marriage course. Regent’s regulation No. 5 of 2016 on pre-marriage course is seen under the maslahah mursalah theory. With the course, the prospective husband and wife already have a lot of supplies to deal with various problems that will arise in the future. In addition, the prospective husband and wife are more stable to get marriage because they have already got a lot of knowledge and motivation from pre-marriage courses held by the government of Rokan Hulu Regency. This program also contains elements of avoiding damage, namely divorce which will have a bad consequence for the offspring. Divorce is expected to be avoided by having sufficient knowledge about domestic life, especially the rights and obligations of husband and wife. Besides using maslahah mursalah, this study also uses the theory of saddu al-dzari'ah. The high divorce rate in Rokan Hulu regency is due to several factors, namely the increasingly sophisticated information technology that facilitates infidelity, the unpreparedness of the bride and groom to receive 100 % of their partners post-marriage, economic factors, the lack of knowledge about marriage and the lack of religious education. The various reasons above, especially the problem of the lack of knowledge about marriage can be closed and avoided by the existence of intense marriage supplies. One of the debriefings could be through a pre-marriage course program held by the Regent of Rokan Hulu.

PENDIDIKAN PRA NIKAH; IKHTIAR MEMBENTUK KELUARGA SAKINAH

ABSTRAK Tulisan Pendidikan Pra Nikah; Ikhtiar Membentuk Keluarga Sakinah ini disebabkan oleh adanya angka perceraian yang sangat tinggi akibat dari pernikahan usia dini yang belum memahami urgensi dan fungsi keluarga. Tujuan dari penulisan ini adalah untuk mengedekuasi anak usia pra nikah agar lebih siap baik secara mental maupun pengetahuan. Jenis penelitian ini adalah kepustakaan, di mana penulis malakukan penelusuran terhadap beberapa literatur yang terkait. Dengan demikian, maka sumber data dari tulisan ini adalah buku-buku ilmiah yang diterbitkan dengan maksud dijadikan sumber referensi. Hasil penelitian ini menunjukkan bahwa urgensi keluarga, fungsi dan peran keluarga, tugas dan tanggungjawab keluarga, ciri-ciri keluarga, serta faktor dan prinsip keluarga sakinah perlu diberikan kepada anak usia pra nikah agar kelak menjadi keluarga yang sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah. Kata Kunci: Pendidikan Pra Nikah dan Keluarga Sakinah ABSTRACTPre-Marriage Writing Paper; Ikhtiar Forming a Sakinah Family was caused by the very high divorce rate resulting from an early marriage that has not understood the urgency and function of the family. The purpose of this paper was to educated pre-married age children to be better prepared both mentally and knowledge. This type of research was a literature, in which the authors trace a number of related literature. Thus, the data sources of this paper are scientific books published with the intention of being a reference source. The results of this study indicated that family urgency, family functions and roles, family duties and responsibilities, family characteristics, and sakinah family principles and factors need to be given to pre married children in order to become a sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah family.Keywords: Pre-marriage Education and Sakinah Family

Rancangan Peraturan Daerah Kabupaten Ponorogo Tentang Larangan Perceraian Bagi Tenaga Kerja Indonesia Perspektif Hukum Islam

Since 2015 the regency of Ponorogo planned to issue a bylaw which prevent indonesian migrant workers who work overseas to divorce. The plan included the prohibition against lawyers to represent migrant workers in divorce cases. The consideration of the bill is the prevalent cases of divorce among migrant workers in the regency. As a regency with a large number of migrant workers, the regulation is expected to mitigate social problems caused by high divorce rate. This is in accordance with the principle of maslahah (welfare) since it will guarantee the protection of family which is one of five basic protection in the concept of maqasid al-shari’ah (the purpose of islamic law). Therefore, the plan should be supported and implemented. In addition, intensive family councelling should be initiated for workers prior and after working overseas. Abstrak: Pemerintah Daerah Kabupaten Ponorogo berinisiatif mengeluarkan Peraturan Daerah tentang Larangan Perceraian bagi Tenaga Kerja Indonesia (TKI) yang berada di luar negeri. Perda tersebut hingga saat ini masih belum disahkan dan ditetapkan, padahal Perda ini telah dibahas dan digodok dari sejak tahun 2015. Inisiasi dari Perda ini berangkat permasalahan tingginya kasus perceraian TKI di Kabupaten Ponorogo, di mana Ponorogo merupakan salah satu pemasok TKI yang besar di Jawa Timur. Dampak negatif dari profesi Tenaga Kerja Indonesia diantaranya adalah perceraian. Dengan mempertimbangkan urgensi dan kemaslahatan yang ditaksirkan dapat meminimalisasi terjadinya perceraian di Ponorogo, sebaiknya Perda tersebut segera disahkan dan ditetapkan agar dampaknya dapat segera dirasakan oleh masyarakat. Hal ini sejalan dengan tujuan hukum Islam yang terumuskan dalam al-kulliyyât al-khamsah, yaitu: hifzh al-dîn, hifzh al-nafs, hifzh al-‘aql, hifzh al-nasab dan hifzh al-mâl. Di samping Perda, perlu peraturan lain tentang tidak diperbolehkannya mewakilkan proses perceraian kepada pengacara untuk meminimalisasi perceraian di Ponorogo. Selain itu, upaya penyuluhan juga perlu dilakukan oleh Pemerintah Daerah bagi TKI, baik pra maupun pasca pemberangkatan TKI ke luar negeri.

INTERVENSI ANAK DALAM PERCERAIAN

The high divorce rate in Indonesia sometimes result with positive and negative trends. Positive trend meant the rise of women to defend their rights as a wife that is often abused by her husband so divorce is the best solutions and alternatives. Trend downside besides destroying a family structure also carries a psychological impact, especially children in addition to great effect in socio-civic life. Legal divorce just look at issues from both parties (husband and wife) only, while the other family members in this case the child is not involved. Though the realm of the family consisting of a husband and wife and children. Child has a fundamental right within the family and also have the right to intervene to prevent his parents' divorce because he was the main victim of the divorce itself. Required a special advocate to defend the interests and rights of the child in his parents' divorce given the level of skill in the legal act has not been adequate. In this case the role and functions of the Indonesian Child Protection Commission (KPAI) is necessary in order to fulfill these rights.