Anakku, belahan jiwaku: Pola asuh yang tepat untuk membentuk psikis anak

2020 ◽  
Author(s):  
Miftakhuddin

Setiap orangtua punya cara membesarkan anaknya, bergantung pada budaya, tingkat pendidikan, kesejahteraan ekonomis, bahkan latar belakang keagamanaan. Metode yang ditempuh orangtua itu disebut sebagai pola asuh (parenting style). Teknik-teknik di dalamnya akan menjadi bagian utama dalam pembentukan kepribadian anak, termasuk kecerdasan, emosi, dan aspek psikologis lainnya.Namun demikian, terkadang orangtua tak menyadari apakah karkateristik psikologis anaknya sesuai dengan gaya pengasuhan yang mereka terapkan. Ketidaktahuan ini pada gilirannya berakibat pada kelalaian pengasuhan (salah asuh) dan berbagai penyimpangan (behavioral and psychological deviations). Itulah mengapa, pada beberapa kasus, ada anak kyai tapi ia adalah pemabuk dan penjudi, anak seorang guru tapi suka mem-bully teman sekolahnya, bahkan ada juga anak polisi yang justeru terlibat tawuran pelajar.Menurut psikolog, satu hal yang luput ialah kekeliruan dalam memahami situasi psikologis anak dan menyelenggarakan pendidikan keluarga yang sesuai. Sebab, masing-masing anak ialah individu yang unik. Mereka tidak bisa saling disamakan karena perkembangannya dipengaruhi nature (sifat alamiah dari gen orangtua) dan nurture (sifat yang terbentuk dari interaksi dengan lingkungan sosial).Persoalan di atas menjadi semakin rumit, lebih-lebih karena orangtua belum menemukan cara mengidentifikasi karakter anak, prosedur pengukuran kesehatan mental anak, bagaimana mengatasi depresi pada anak, dan bagaimanakah strategi mendidik yang disarankan agar psikologis anak tetap sehat. Buku ini berusaha menyajikan solusi atas problematika tersebut, dengan merujuk pada teori-teori psikologi, hasil penelitian, dan pengalaman empiris dari berbagai riset psikologis di Indonesia. Sebagai bahan kajian yang riil, buku ini juga mengangkat contoh-contoh kasus pola pengasuhan pada keluarga utuh, single parent, dan broken home.

2020 ◽  
Vol 2 (2) ◽  
pp. 21-36
Author(s):  
Beti Wulandari ◽  
Sagaf S. Pettalongi ◽  
Hamlan Hamlan

This study was conducted in al-istiqamah ngatabaru modern islamic boarding school with sample of 50 students. Data were gathered through  observation and questionnaires. The data were analysed  using  descriptive analysis approach.  The results showed that the parenting style applied by each parents of students in general can be said to be quite democratic, but none of the parents of students who apply pure democratic parenting. Under certain circumstances, parents are authoritarian and in another  circumstances parents are permissive. Based on the significant value of the Coefficients table, the significance value of 0,000 <0,05, then based on the known value of , while the Ttable value at the error level 5% = 2.011, thus the statement can be written that, tcount>  (18.254 <2.011 ), the degree of the influence of single parent parenting style on social emotional behavior women student of al-istiqamah ngatabaru modern islamic boarding school also can be known through the magnitude of coefficient of determination (R Square) is 0.871 or 87.1%. This means that 12.9% is influenced by other factors not included in this study. so it can be concluded that single parent parenting style (X) parenting variable influential to emotional social development variable (Y), the result is significant hypothesis that there is positive influence between parenting parent single parent to emotional social development santriwati pondok pesantren modern Al-istiqamah Ngatabaru.


Author(s):  
Manuela López Ramírez

Toni Morrison’s latest novel, God Help the Child, explores the damaging effects of racism on motherhood and the dramatic impact of toxic mothering upon children. The institution of patriarchal motherhood fails to enact the critical tasks of motherwork —preservation, nurturance and cultural bearing, while mothering is a potential site of empowerment of black children and African American culture. African American authoritarian parenting style, associated with patriarchal motherhood, has a correlation with diverse factors, such as the legacy of slavery and its survival strategies, low-income and/or single-parent households and the disruption of the motherline. Motherhood distorted by racism cannot develop a sense of black selfhood in children, thwarting their chances of survival, resistance and subversion of racist ideologies.Keywords: African American, authoritarian parenting, passing for white, single, motherhood.


2020 ◽  
Vol 3 (1) ◽  
pp. 33-53
Author(s):  
Desi Ratna Sari

Single parent families have an obligation to guide their children, in carrying out their role alone in guiding children to face many obstacles. This paper starts from the results of research that aims to describe the parenting style of single parents towards adolescent religious behavior and the impact of parenting on adolescent religious behavior. The results showed that parenting of single parent parents using democratic parenting and permissive parenting had a positive impact on the behavior of the diversity of children as evidenced by diligently practicing worship, diligently reading the Qur'an and doing good for parents


1991 ◽  
Vol 158 (2) ◽  
pp. 268-270 ◽  
Author(s):  
Syed Hasan Jawed

This case-note survey compares a group of Asian children referred to child psychiatry and guidance clinics in Bolton with a control group of white children referred to the same clinics. The proportion of Asian children was less than the proportion of Asian people in the general population. The proportion of Asian children coming from a broken home or a single-parent family was significantly lower than in the control group. Conduct disorders were more common in the control group and somatoform disorders were more common in the Asian group.


2002 ◽  
Vol 10 (1) ◽  
pp. 36-56 ◽  
Author(s):  
Stuart Lasine

AbstractTheologians like Blumenthal, Brueggemann, and Chastain have recently stressed the abusive and sometimes capricious nature of Yahweh's actions toward his people, at times using studies of present-day child abuse to bolster their case. Predictably, such indictments of Yahweh have met with considerable resistance. This paper assesses the proposed analogy between Yahweh's behavior and that of abusive parents, by making more extensive use of the psychological literature on child abuse and trauma. The discussion also moves in a new direction, by employing recent research on narcissistic parenting to analyze Yahweh's behavior as father (and mother) to his "special" child Israel and his unique son Job. Passages in which Yahweh is said to love or hate his human children are examined in terms of psychological studies of parental ambivalence, narcissism and emotional "splitting." The final section of the paper examines the relationship between Yahweh's own lack of a family history and his narcissism, in part by comparing the unique and parentless divine king Yahweh with the Egyptian god Amun. The paper concludes by contrasting the single parent Yahweh with Assmann's characterization of ancient polytheisms, and asking whether monotheism itself is the most dramatic example of divine royal narcissism.


Author(s):  
M. Khoirul Hadi Al Asy ari ◽  
Muhammad Rahman

Writing this paper aims to determine the function and influence of the family on a child, young families as a result of marride will be accidentally influenced by child care, where ideal care will be seen at the time of loyalty, attention and attention of parents to children in order to grow into a better generation. However, being too young to get married will hamper the knowledge of young couples about ideal parenting. The purpose of this study is to describe the knowledge of parenting in young families, to describe the problems of childcare and to describe the forms of care for young families as a result of accidental marriage. This research was conducted with a qualitative approach. The results of this study are the lack of knowledge about ideal parenting, so that parenting has changed the function of young families into their grandmothers or sisters. Care for young families with problems is seen from three factors: parenting, actors playing and the obstacles faced while having children. There are four forms of parenting namely democratic parenting, authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting and parenting style. Different parents will apply different parenting styles as well. However, the mayor of a young family uses democratic nurturing because they prioritize the importance of children but remain under the supervision of parents, parents are more rational, realistic, open, and able to communicate well with children. Democratic parenting style is mainly used to produce characteristics of children who are independent, obedient, honest, good communication and cooperative with others. There are several important questions in this paper, first. What is the ideal childcare method. Second. What is the impact of parents' lack of attention on a child. Third. How is the solution to bring together families who are broken home. Interview, data collection, and documentation methods are used in this paper to obtain maximum and concrete results. So that this paper can be used as a solution for families who are experiencing problems both internally and externally.


Author(s):  
Hesti Meinawati ◽  
Ni Made Wiasti ◽  
Ni Luh Arjani

This study uses a qualitative method. The collection technique used is using observation, interviews, and literature study. The research problems were analyzed using Structural-Functional Theory and Psychoanalytic Theory. The findings in this study are divided into two parts. First, the parenting pattern, the process of implementing the parenting style, the single parent Father takes care and educates the child by instilling values and norms, applying discipline, giving appreciation, providing religious education, meeting the physical needs of the child. In the process of parenting, there are obstacles and expectations of parents towards their children. Second, discussing the psychological implications for children, which can be seen in terms of children's moral behavior, children's personality and socialization, as well as children's play activities.


2017 ◽  
Vol 2 (2) ◽  
Author(s):  
Sabilla Hasanah ◽  
Elvi Sahara ◽  
Indah Permata Sari ◽  
Sri Wulandari ◽  
Kamil Pardumoan

<p><em>Families are encouraged by Broken Home circumstances marked by parental divorce, or those who have single parents (Single Parent). At times such as the attention and affection of the parents make the child.Jika already stepped on the teenager can cause a crisis that is usually characterized by the tendency of deviant behavior or mischief. Negative reactions caused by adolescents that can damage the physical and personality. This requires the assistance of teachers Guidance and Counseling to develop Guidance and Counseling services in eradicating students' problems as a result of Broken Home.</em><em></em></p><p><strong> </strong></p>


2021 ◽  
Vol 2 (1) ◽  
pp. 30
Author(s):  
Marlina Marlina ◽  
Agus Prayitno

This research is motivated by the difference in the level of independence of children who are cared for by single parent parents, both from the father and the mother, this is because the time that must be divided between raising children and earning a living to meet their daily needs, so that there are some children who low independence, so they still have to depend on other people, especially parents, but there are also children who are very independent in carrying out their own activities. know the problems faced by single parent parents in carrying out family roles and fostering children's independence, as well as knowing solutions to problems faced by single parent parents in carrying out family roles and fostering children's independence. This research method uses qualitative research methods, where this qualitative method is more to collect various information through interviews with informants accompanied by documentation, data collection techniques use interviews and observations and documentation to strengthen the results of this study, in addition to using case studies where the case study. is to conduct an in-depth examination of a situation or event to obtain information. The results of the interviews showed that the parenting style that was given would cause different impacts and risks. These parenting styles include democratic parenting, permissive parenting, and authoritarian parenting. Each of these parenting styles has its own advantages and disadvantages. So that parents must be clever in dealing with the impact of this parenting style. The conclusion that can be obtained from this research is about the diversity of parenting styles provided by parents such as the several types of parenting that have been mentioned above, it can cause different levels of children's independence. Besides that, there are also some problems regarding the lack of time in controlling children's development because they have to be divided by earning a living and not being able to fully control the child's development both at home and outside the home. Abstrak Penelitian ini dilatarbelakangi oleh adanya perbedaan dari tingkat kemandirian anak yang diasuh oleh orang tua single parent baik dari pihak ayah maupun pihak ibu, hal ini dikarenakan waktu yang harus terbagi antara mengasuh anak dan mencari nafkah untuk memenuhi kebutuhan hidupnya, sehingga terdapat beberapa anak yang memiliki tingkat kemandirian yang rendah, sehingga masih harus bergantung dengan orang lain terutama orang tua, tetapi ada juga anak yang sudah sangat mandiri dalam melakukan aktivitasnya sendiri.Tujuan dari penelitian ini adalah untuk mengetahui pola asuh yang diberikan oleh orang tua single parent dalam menumbuhkan kemandirian anak, untuk mengetahui permasalahan yang dihadapi orang tua single parent dalam menjalani peran keluarga dan menumbuhkan kemandirian anak, serta mengetahui solusi dari permasalahan yang dihadapi oleh orang tua single parent dalam menjalani peran keluarga dan menumbuhkan kemandirian anak. Metode penelitian ini menggunakan metode penelitian kualitatif, dimana metode kualitaif ini lebih kepada mengumpulkan berbagai informasi melalui wawancara dengan narasumber disertai dengan dokumentasi,teknik pengumpulan data menggunakan wawancara dan observasi serta dokumentasi untuk memperkuat hasil penelitian ini, selain itu juga menggunakan studi kasus dimana studi kasus itu adalah melakukan pemeriksaan secara mendalam terhadap sesuatu keadaan atau kejadian untuk mendapat suatu informasi. Hasil wawancara menujukkan bahwa pola asuh yang diberikanakan menyebabkan dampak dan resiko yang berbeda-beda. Pola asuh tersebut diantaranya adalah pola asuh demokratif, pola asuh permisif, dan pola asuh otoriter. Dari setiap pola asuh tersebut pasti  mempunyai kelebihan dan kekurangannya masing-masing. Sehingga orang tua harus pandai dalam menyiasati adanya dampak dari pola asuh tersebut. Kesimpulan yang bisa didapat dari penelitian ini adalah tentang keberagaman pola asuh yang diberikan oleh orang tua seperti beberapa jenis pola asuh yang sudah disebutkan di atas, hal itu dapat menyebabkan tingkat kemandirian anak berbeda-beda. Disamping itu juga terdapat beberapa permasalahan tentang waktu yang kurang dalam mengontrol perkembangan  anak karena harus terbagi dengan mencari nafkah dan tidak sepenuhnya dapat mengontrol perkembangan anak baik itu di rumah maupun di luar rumah.


2020 ◽  
Vol 41 (2) ◽  
pp. 110-116
Author(s):  
Jonathan E. Ramsay

Abstract. Previous research suggests that parenting style influences the development of the needs for achievement, power, and affiliation. The present study investigated the relationship between parenting style and another important motive disposition – the need for autonomy – in a sample of Singapore university students ( N = 97, 69% female), using a cross-sectional and retrospective design. It was predicted that an authoritative perceived parenting style would relate positively to the implicit need for autonomy ( nAut), the explicit need for autonomy ( sanAut), and the congruence between these two motive dispositions. Authoritative maternal parenting was found to positively associate with sanAut, while maternal parenting was not found to associate with nAut, or with nAut/ sanAut congruence. Paternal parenting was not associated with any of the dependent variables.


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